10th July

10th July

No one is actually dead until the ripples they cause in the world die away

Terry Pratchett

The 10th of July will always be such a turbulent day for me.

I celebrate the life of one of my closest friends I have the privilege of knowing. She always knows how I’m feeling and what to say to me when I’m feeling emotionally exhausted.

I also celebrate the life of someone who never really had the chance to show the world what he was made of. Its been 4 years and its still pretty raw to think about. The conversations we had and the help you gave me. I thank you everyday Lulu

The Flat Share…

‘You went from unconscious to judgemental very quickly there.’

The Flat Share – Beth O’Leary

Honestly, I could say this every time I read a new book – this book was fucking incredible!

I started it today at 4.15pm and at 11.25pm, I have finished it. Obviously including breaks for cooking, eating and a social distanced chat with the neighbours for an hour after clapping for our carers.

I will bite my tongue on spoilers, but this book made me smile, cry a little (I admit begrudgingly) and feel an overwhelming wash of feelings at all parts.

I loved how the characters felt relatable – I read a lot of books and fan fictions, to know the archetypal character is someone I do not look like. I wont tangent on being shown a picture of a beautiful, slender lady and being told this is YOU. I have friends like Mo, Gerty and Rachel. I’ve met people like Justin. And I fucking wish for a Leon and Richie.

This book showed me how beautifully love can be and the finite art of post-it communication.

I know a lot of people could be put off by the flipping back and forth between the two protagonists, but it really helped build their characters and allows you to asses the plot from both perspectives.

Would definitely recommend for everyone to read, it’s such a humble book that is definitely on the reread list already!

‘Some people are beyond aromatherapeutic help’

The Flat Share – Beth O’Leary

Habit Tracking!

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The soul, like the body, accepts by practice whatever habit one wishes it to contact.

– Socrates

I have never been really good at keeping up with habit tracking – I’m good for at least a week or two, then I just forget. But, I’ve decided that whilst we are in lockdown, I will attempt to start some form of habit routine to give myself an ounce of stability in this strange time.

I’ve got 3 routine sets throughout the week, aptly labelled Morning, Afternoon and Night, with a slight variation to the Afternoon Routine on the weekends

Morning Routine

  • Make my bed
  • Brush teeth
  • Drink water
  • Stretch
  • 7 Minute Exercise
  • Shower

Afternoon Routine

Monday – Friday

  • Drink water
  • Block distractions
  • No sugar challenge!
  • Drink tea
  • Inbox zero
  • Create a timeline

Weekend

  • Drink water
  • Create a timeline
  • Block distractions
  • Inbox Zero
  • Deep work (90 mins)
  • Drink tea

Evening Routine

  • Drink tea
  • Meditate
  • Shower
  • Brush teeth
  • Floss
  • No electricals!
  • Read

I know you’re probably thinking, for someone who can’t stick with tracking habits, you sure have a lot squeezed in for each day. In order to track my habits and to get gentle reminders to complete them I use the app Fabulous. (This isn’t sponsored by the way, I’m not important enough to have sponsors) Fabulous is in essence a habit tracking app where you can organise your habits into scheduled routines. You can also access a wealth of preset routines for specific things like mental health, exercise and concentration. When its time to complete your habits, Fabulous gives you a gentle nudge to crack on with it! (Also, the Fabulous community on FaceBook are really sweet and constantly give other users motivation to continue)

I have 2 afternoon routines; the weekday one covers the time I generally have my lunch break during working hours, and the weekend one covers the time I dedicate to studying from home.

I think the reason why I struggle so much with this, is because I get distracted super easily – it’s on the same wavelength as the attention span of a goldfish. But if i can maintain this for 30 days, I will write an update post to let you know my progress.

This post is a bit choppy but I’m multitasking playing tomb raider and talking with my cousins on the phone! Let me know in the comments if there are any habits you are currently tracking, or if you also use fabulous 🙂

The Half of It …

‘In love, one always starts by deceiving oneself, and ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance.’ – Oscar Wilde

It’s been a while since I’ve watched a film and been completely taken by it. The Half of It is that film that you start and hate every interruption from family, because it pulls you in, and you don’t want to ruin it.

The plot was endearing and relatable; it didn’t end with the archetypal rom-com ending, and it was engaging from start to end. It explored the narrative of a LGBTQ+ BAME individual without overly romanticising it or treating it with a pinch of salt.

The philosophical train of thought that ran throughout, with the discussion on religion was done with class – it didn’t dismiss one with the other, more explored and entwined it with the plot.

Casting = Exceptional. Feelings = Rollercoaster. My Mind = Overflowing with thoughts.

My applause to Alice Wu with this one.

‘Love isn’t patient, and kind, and humble. Love is messy, and horrible, and selfish, and bold. It’s not finding your perfect half. It’s the trying, and reaching, and failing.’ – Ellie Chu (The Half of It)